I’ve always been a really indecisive person and instead of asking MYSELF what I really want I tend to turn to others for guidance. I’m like “What do YOU think? What should I do? PLEASE TELL ME!!!” hahaha
I now realise this totally takes away my power. It’s like I don’t trust myself to make the right decisions. But you know what, there is no such thing as a WRONG decision, the most important thing is actually MAKING A decision.
You may think you don’t know the answer, but the answer ALWAYS lies within. You just need to look for it.
Now although I still stand by the fact that there are no wrong decisions per se, I’ve recently come to learn about the difference between FEAR-BASED and CONFIDENCE-BASED decisions. Fear-based decisions are the easy way out, the choice that pleases others and that avoids confrontation, but that will eventually lead to feelings of unhappiness and unfulfillment. Confidence-based decisions give you power. They trust that no matter the outcome, everything works out the way it should.
My partner came up with a 5-step process to making decisions and I think it’s ABSOLUTE GENIUS. It works a treat, every time, TRUST ME 😉
STEP 1: Close your eyes and ask yourself a question.
STEP 2: Listen to the FIRST answer your heart gives you.
STEP 3: Apply a filter: Is the answer fear-based or confidence-based?
STEP 4: If fear-based, return to step 1.
STEP 5: If confidence-based, take action on your answer.