I recently listened to an audio book called ‘The Gift of Imperfection’ by Brené Brown. If you’ve never heard of Brené go to Netflix NOW and watch ‘The Call to Courage’.
She’s my HERO.
She’s a shame, fear and vulnerability researcher and in her books, ted talks, courses she discusses her findings. This particular book talks about how to embrace your inner flaws to accept who you are, instead of constantly chasing the image of who you're trying to be.
So WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE between perfectionism and striving for excellence?
Read the book to find out!! In the meantime, here is a little teaser 😉
“Perfectionism is the belief that if we do things perfectly and look perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgment, and shame. Perfectionism is a twenty-ton shield that we lug around, thinking it will protect us, when in fact it’s the thing that’s really preventing us from being seen.
Perfectionism is also very different than self-improvement. Perfectionism is, at its core, about trying to earn approval. Most perfectionists grew up being praised for achievement and performance (grades, manners, rule following, people pleasing, appearance, sports). Somewhere along the way, they adopted this dangerous and debilitating belief system: “I am what I accomplish and how well I accomplish it. Please. Perform. Perfect.” Healthy striving is self- focused: How can I improve? Perfectionism is other-focused: What will they think? Perfectionism is a hustle.
Last, perfectionism is not the key to success. In fact, research shows that perfectionism hampers achievement. Perfectionism is correlated with depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis or missed opportunities. The fear of failing, making mistakes, not meeting people’s expectations, and being criticized keeps us outside of the arena where healthy competition and striving unfolds.” ― Brené Brown