I can be extremely stubborn at times, and I always want to be right.
I often find it difficult to simply admit my wrongness and I use avoidance tactics to weasel my way out of any situation that puts blame on me. My typical answer à “Oh but I didn’t mean it”, “It wasn’t my fault”, “I’m sorry”. I search for ways to justify my actions, instead of just owning up to my F*** up.
I’ve recently realised that the reason for this behaviour is because I associate wrong with bad. I think that by doing something wrong that makes me a bad person, so I avoid being wrong like the PLAGUE. But you know what? Wrong is actually GOOD.
Just because you do something wrong, doesn’t make YOU wrong. Your actions are simply wrong, NOT you. You see, no-one is right 100% of the time.
In fact, being wrong, taking responsibility for your actions and learning from your mistakes, helps you grow and become a better person.
What we often don’t realise is that in any argument we always have a part to play in the problem. It’s NEVER 100% on the other person.
By owning up to your ‘wrong’ actions, you show not only yourself respect but the other person respect too.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic. It’s been a total revelation for me, and I wonder if anyone else is in the same boat!!